On Patriotism...

I really feel bad that the Patriots didn't make the play-offs...

Sure, I'd still watch the Superbowl but it won't be the same without #12 Brady on the field... well, at least he'd be there for the coin toss... =)

On Men and Letting go...

This weekend's drinking session was kind of funny and redundant... you know how guys will call the troops for male ego reinforcement after bad break up moments... well this was one of them...

Here's how it unraveled:

Phase I (1-3 beers)

Women bashing.
Women are ruthless heartbreakers. Hmmm... I totally agree.

1. Women as oppose to men do not fall in love/lust at first sight. We are not-so visual creatures. We feel, we rationalize, rationalize more, then conclude that there must be something there.

Not necessarily love, but chemistry. That's where we jump start, if this is effectively sustained by the other specie then, it may evolve to something greater... could be platonic or romantic love. Again this is highly dependent on how the other specie sustains the chemistry.

Hence, the dialogue... it's not you it's me... let's be friends... I need space... let's start seeing other people... There's a gazillion ways to say it, but it still means the same thing... I don't like to waste your time or my time, take a hike.

2. Women who tell you that I was out with my guy friend means I was out with my guy friend! Unlike the other specie, friend is defined or viewed relatively... what is it about the word friend that you do not get?!

Hence, this does not justify men dating and/or sleeping around with their so-called friends with benefits. Nor can you use it as a valid arguement... du-uh...

Word of caution: do not even go through this line of reasoning... you'd surely get ditched because of sleeping around, then be accused of loyalty issues. (Totally ugly... don't go there!)

Phase II (4-6 beers)

Ego talk.

This must be the most ineteresting part of the session. Well, interesting for me.... hahaha...

Men are sooo hung up on NOT marking their territory before the break up. Then, the obsession on "I-have-to-get-her-back" tactics begin. Strange but sooo true...

No wonder the more expensive gifts come after the break up... hmmm...

By this time, the guys were giving me shit... I once turned down an all expense paid vacation to China. Come on now, if I got to choose who I would go with then maybe I would have accepted... hahahaha....

Phase III (couldn't keep track of all the beers)

Realization.

1. A rebound is a rebound... and will always be a rebound. Need I explain this?

You're a rebound if:

• you hooked up 1-2 months after the previous relationship ended.
• you only connect during sex.
• you do not know the name of his/her bestfriend.
• you have no idea; what the names of his/her siblings are, his/her order in the family, his/her middle name, the name of his/her mom!
• you find ex-bf/gf traces... ie: gifts, pictures, notes, letters, tokens, messages, doing the same things they did, going to the same places they've been...
• you are unconsciously morphing yourself into the ex.
• you know that they are still friends and you haven't been introduced as the new bf/gf.
• you haven't had talk about the long term topics... meeting the parents, where to live, type and location of your future home, career plans for the next 2 to 3 years, retirement plans... having kids is no longer considered a long term topic... you're already having sex!!! du-uh...
• and the sure fire way to detect you're a rebound... he/she has no idea why the relationship ended... vague responses like, he/she's crazy is not a reason!

2. All of the I could haves, should haves will not fix it! If you're dead serious on getting her back do something about it, instead of mopping around with us and drinking yourself to death!!! (que the laughter from everybody!!!)

3. There is no such thing as the "One"! This must be the stupidest thing I heard all night... "pare, she's the one eh..." (sob-sob-sob).... bwwhahahahaha... tears of laughter rolling down my cheeks!!!

Man, you are so pathetic. There is no such thing!!!
Sure, there maybe perfect timing, perfect moments, but not a perfect person!

4. Ask yourself this... are you or were you truly happy together? Do you find yourself striving to be and/or being your best around this person? Or does she stagnate you? Do you find yourself trying to please and constantly seek approval? All of the mopping around is not worth it... (but all the free beers are... hehehe...)

5. Friends will be friends and will always be there no matter what you decide... (I guess this means more drinking sessions with senti moments!!!)

Well, what can I say... men are so f*cking romantics... they may have odd ways of expressing it but I'm sooo glad I'm at the receiving end... hahahaha...